Teachers everywhere will agree that helping a student change their life from a destructive path to a productive and constructive one is probably one of the most difficult things to achieve in a career. This is mostly because students rarely accept help; their pride and ego will stop them from accepting that adults can straighten certain things out sometimes. When it happens however, it is a beautiful thing to see. Here are some things teachers can and should do in order to gently bring a child over to the side of the angels:
Be the Northern Star
No student will follow an adult who they consider ineffective. In fact, you have a better chance of convincing a student to follow your advice if they look up to you as a role model. This is why it is important that even smart, brilliant, ‘good’ receive career mentoring and regular counselling in order to ensure that they stay on track with their lives. One of the best ways to do this is to let them come up with their own plans and gently nudge them towards the right choices by subtly indicating the available options. If a student wants to be a research chemist but vehemently refuses to study chemistry in school, point out to them that without their pass grade, they will not be eligible for university entry or that job. See this page for further information regarding career coach Melbourne.
Be a Sign Post
Sometimes, we are not the best people to advise or guide a wayward student, but there may be others who have more influence over them. In such cases, the best thing to do is to push or pull them over towards that individual. This often happens when students get older and find new role models among their university peers and lecturers. If a student no longer listens to your guidance but you realize that their life choices are taking them away from their goal, try to point them towards graduate careers advice personnel so that they receive authoritative information.
Be a Friend, Not a Parent
Unless the student in question has no parent figure at home and looks at you as a surrogate, fulfilling the role of parent is risky in many ways. Emotional attachments can become too dependent and messy and you might be dragged into unnecessary drama that is completely irrelevant to your own life. It might even get to the point where you lose your own subjectivity to that of a student. A certain degree of detachment is always advisable, so try to remain in the role of older, wiser friend rather than parent. A friend is not morally obliged (though perhaps emotionally compelled) to lay down their life for another, but simply to help that friend and be there.